Lets talk about SEX

Ok, as promised....sex and Don Juan Quixote

Sex is a natural thing in life. It is GOOD. It can make you feel GOOD. It releases endorphins that make you feel like you're on drugs! It can be soft and gentle, rough and aggressive, and passionate and hot. It can be kinky...kinky to some is a norm to others, by the way.

Don Juan Quixote is a philosopher at heart. I believe you should always strive to get better at the things you love....in order to master your life. I have been a lover now for, well, many years lets say.

It's exciting and usually pretty quick when you're a teen and just starting out. However, as time goes on, you begin to realize that sex for longer periods is awesome as well. I have studied the Kama Sutra and many other books and manuals on sexuality. I've had many lovers and can say that they all considered me good and this is something I'm not bragging about, but letting you know that if you practice and study enough about anything, you become better and better. I am a 10th degree black belt in the martial arts of sex now...a master. (not master-bater, but master...though masterbation is a good release too and can be very stimulating when done together with your lover as well.)

The main thing lovers need to do is commmunicate. Letting your lover know what turns you on is the #1 thing you can do to make your sex awesome. If your lover is good, they will take the knowledge and expound upon it. Some people like oral sex and some don't; some like to give oral and some dont.
Some women enjoy anal stimulation because of the many sensitive nerve areas and some are anally retentive and do not want you to touch that area at all. Sex should be free....and we should all strive to try different things at times to see if we like them. I'm not saying I would try being with a guy, mind you. But I have had girlfriends who enjoyed having another woman from time to time join us. I actually prefer a one on one sexual relationship, but do try and please my lover and stimulate them in whatever way they desire. Adult toys and videos are always a good way to spice things up and should be used from time to time, but be careful that you don't become dependent on them. I've heard some women cannot even 'come' without the use of their vibrator because they've used it so much. A vibrator can be a great tool for lovers in the bedroom. It can be used in many different ways...;)
A man can use his mouth, tongue, and fingers for stimulating his lover and in time can become a master at making her climax with these tools. Taking time and building it up slowly is usually the key to this. Sex is great...why rush it and make it over quickly. Take the time! Put on some hot romantic music, candles, and take it slowly...it is awesome when you get the build-up and the timing right.

One great thing to do with your lover is to take a full day and just make love all day. I don't mean constantly, but stay in a robe all day, get some movies and plenty of food in the house, and make love throughout the whole day. Guys, this is where Viagra, Levitra, whatever, is a great asset as well. You may not think you need it, but try it and 12 hours later you will love it and she will think you are a lion!!

I always strive to get my lover to climax. For me, there is nothing more exciting. Everyone climax's in a different way too! Some women lock up and go into convulsions, some scream like hell, some like to talk and tell you when it's time, and some will come quietly, some will come only once or twice and some will come 15-20 times in a row. There are some that enjoy anal pleasures to get there, some with fetishes,(like graveyards, WTF?) and yes, there is such a thing as a squirter. (Keep plenty of towels around and wash sheets frequently.)

At this point, I must let you know that sex with a person you trust and are in-love with is the very best sex, but that is always called 'making love', and is a whole different category than just sex.

Remember, sex is good and always fun, but please remember that safe sex is the only way to prevent transmitting diseases.

If you have any questions or would like to comment, please do!!

Don Juan Quixote

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Wednesday March 10, 2010

So, where were we...

Oh yeah, she had moved in and things were changing. Ladies, guys are not good with change. They like for it to change slowly and without a whole lot of fuss. She painted several rooms prior to moving in, made me cut all the shrubs back around the house, and moved in with 10 times more stuff than I ever dreamed of having. I was ok with it, though, because I was head-over-heals in love. I didn't care if she had alot of fancy glass artifacts that I was afraid I would accidently break. I didn't care that I wasn't even sure what the fancy rug-looking thing hanging from the wall was. (A tapestry, I found out later.) I accepted that these things were important to her....so I just smiled and tiptoed around the glass thingys.

She came and quickly won over my family, friends, and most importantly, my kids. It all seemed so perfect. She seemed so perfect. I guess I knew...deep down...perfect never lasts.

Within a few months, her bills kept piling up. I was unable to keep her bills and my own bills paid and she quickly went into 'beeotch' mode. Suddenly, the sex became more infrequent and the moods began to swing. Complaining about whatever came to mind became the norm at the end of my workday. Yep, the honeymoon had gone sour quickly.
Though we did let each other know we loved one another daily, she just was not the same woman I had fallen for....and I hated seeing her unhappy. It made me hate myself for allowing her to come. We had been so happy before, when she would come down every weekend, and I realized we had jumped the gun by moving in together. Reality bitch-slapped me hard.

But what were we to do? She had already moved all her things there. We were in love and wanted to be together, only the economic climate was aweful and we were realizing that together we were...poor. We did all we could to save money, but there was not even enough to eat and pay all our bills together. We were slowly getting strangled by the economy. It was hard to breathe...
I had found her a few jobs, but she had left a high paying job to come be with me and was not willing to take the ones I had found her. We were together for 7 months, she lived with me for 5 of those. I finally had to tell her she needed to go back home and find a better job there. She had come from a bigger city and the jobs paid better there. At first, we agreed that we were in love and I would try to get a better job in the big city and we could be together. But sometime during her moving, she started getting angry about it all. She went from telling me she loved me and wanted a life with me to telling me the very next week that it was over and we were done. She had a yardsale, made as much money as possible, and left with all her stuff and some of mine...and the most heart-breaking thing to me was that she didn't even tell my children good-bye and they were all hopeful she would be their step-mom one day.

Though my heart was broken, my heart has been broken many times before....and it heals itself. You find things to do. You try to better yourself. You read that book you wanted to read, but didn't have time for. You start working out again with the extra time you have when you're alone. You start writing a blog.

And the kids? Well, I worry what they think of their Dad sometimes, but they are very well-behaved, loving, and full or humor. They know I love them with all my heart and are the most important people in my world...without them, I would truly be lost. My love-life is a constant subject of laughter for them.

I promise tomorrow's blog will be funny. The whole broken-hearted thing gets old....even to the broken hearted. We must all find humor in ourselves. It is a fundamental in finding happiness.

Take care out there and know that you are not alone in this lonely world.
Never quit on life....because you might miss tomorrow's adventure from Don Juan Quixote!!

Tomorrow we'll discuss.....the sex-life of Don Juan Quixote. You do NOT want to miss that!!!