Ok, as promised....sex and Don Juan Quixote
Sex is a natural thing in life. It is GOOD. It can make you feel GOOD. It releases endorphins that make you feel like you're on drugs! It can be soft and gentle, rough and aggressive, and passionate and hot. It can be kinky...kinky to some is a norm to others, by the way.
Don Juan Quixote is a philosopher at heart. I believe you should always strive to get better at the things you love....in order to master your life. I have been a lover now for, well, many years lets say.
It's exciting and usually pretty quick when you're a teen and just starting out. However, as time goes on, you begin to realize that sex for longer periods is awesome as well. I have studied the Kama Sutra and many other books and manuals on sexuality. I've had many lovers and can say that they all considered me good and this is something I'm not bragging about, but letting you know that if you practice and study enough about anything, you become better and better. I am a 10th degree black belt in the martial arts of sex now...a master. (not master-bater, but master...though masterbation is a good release too and can be very stimulating when done together with your lover as well.)
The main thing lovers need to do is commmunicate. Letting your lover know what turns you on is the #1 thing you can do to make your sex awesome. If your lover is good, they will take the knowledge and expound upon it. Some people like oral sex and some don't; some like to give oral and some dont.
Some women enjoy anal stimulation because of the many sensitive nerve areas and some are anally retentive and do not want you to touch that area at all. Sex should be free....and we should all strive to try different things at times to see if we like them. I'm not saying I would try being with a guy, mind you. But I have had girlfriends who enjoyed having another woman from time to time join us. I actually prefer a one on one sexual relationship, but do try and please my lover and stimulate them in whatever way they desire. Adult toys and videos are always a good way to spice things up and should be used from time to time, but be careful that you don't become dependent on them. I've heard some women cannot even 'come' without the use of their vibrator because they've used it so much. A vibrator can be a great tool for lovers in the bedroom. It can be used in many different ways...;)
A man can use his mouth, tongue, and fingers for stimulating his lover and in time can become a master at making her climax with these tools. Taking time and building it up slowly is usually the key to this. Sex is great...why rush it and make it over quickly. Take the time! Put on some hot romantic music, candles, and take it slowly...it is awesome when you get the build-up and the timing right.
One great thing to do with your lover is to take a full day and just make love all day. I don't mean constantly, but stay in a robe all day, get some movies and plenty of food in the house, and make love throughout the whole day. Guys, this is where Viagra, Levitra, whatever, is a great asset as well. You may not think you need it, but try it and 12 hours later you will love it and she will think you are a lion!!
I always strive to get my lover to climax. For me, there is nothing more exciting. Everyone climax's in a different way too! Some women lock up and go into convulsions, some scream like hell, some like to talk and tell you when it's time, and some will come quietly, some will come only once or twice and some will come 15-20 times in a row. There are some that enjoy anal pleasures to get there, some with fetishes,(like graveyards, WTF?) and yes, there is such a thing as a squirter. (Keep plenty of towels around and wash sheets frequently.)
At this point, I must let you know that sex with a person you trust and are in-love with is the very best sex, but that is always called 'making love', and is a whole different category than just sex.
Remember, sex is good and always fun, but please remember that safe sex is the only way to prevent transmitting diseases.
If you have any questions or would like to comment, please do!!
Don Juan Quixote